BEING A FOREIGNER!!

We are all looking for a greener pastures. So many people have left their families back, All in one mind to look for a better life, living their motherland be it how beautiful it might be, their families and starting a new life in a complete new place.

It’s never easy, one fights with homesick, adaptation, rejection and so forth but still wakes up to a new day and fights for survival all in the name of a better life. There’s no better place like home just like the saying goes, East West home is the best. If you’ve been a foreigner you know quiet well what am talking about and the different mixed feelings that arises from time to time, no matter how comfy your life could be still there will be always those feelings of :-What if I was home? Especially during certain occasions and holiday’s.

Personally I still get those feelings and when they catch up with me, They leave me with Sadness not because ain’t happy with my life but when the good memories with family start playing at the back of my mind. I miss every moment of it. Sometimes it just drives me nuts to get all the silly questions. Do you miss your family? Really! For real what answer could one respond. Most of times I really got no reply to such kind of questions. As much as one is settled wherever it might whether in States,Europe or any other place that’s not your place of birth. There are times it will be hard but, It’s all about letting go and moving on with the flow.

Most people tend to think it’s easy being away from your family but it’s the most hardest thing personally I have encountered for the last eight years and still fighting onto it day in day out. It’s all about picking up the pieces and getting along with your journey. Hoping for a better tomorrow.It’s never eat being in a foreign country.

East or West Home is best!!

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PARENTING 101

It’s been a while i had stepped out from my blog,Not because i had nothing to write or talk about but busy running up and down with my lovely two kids.My daughter was on vacation for two months but finally ,the school reopened and i have quiet cooled down.                                                                                                                                      Parenting is one of the hardest task and the most enjoyable anyway,Although if one dont programme her routine quiet well .Ooh Dear! it can be stressing and annoying.Generally there was no time for me to blog nor read whatsoever.I was over booked by my kids which i would say was quiet okey,I trully enjoy being around my kids come rain come sunshine.                                                                                                                                       .        It’s been such a great time in my life to see my kids now they get along with each other although at Times it gets worse but we are learning how and ways to deal with the two of them .My daughter is already Four years old while my Son is one year and few months so the gap aint really that huge ,But there gets a time both of them annoy each other .     My daughter is quiet energetic although skeptical .She question’s everything that you say which gets annoying especially when its an important thing that she is needed to do .but i would say i have come up with my own ways to handle her.My Son on the other hand not so much from him .He’s really calm and easy to handle.                                                                                                                                                          Parenting journey has not been easy at all.But am glad that i have managed and really proud hence i dont get any help from anyone whatsover .Its just my husband and i.I have come to understand that with the way most people complains about all sorts of kids .I would dare say  kids are an outcome of their parental upbring.    In this world there’s nothing like stubborn kids,Its just the way you as a parent you handle your kid.From the word go i ,learnt that if i set certain rules with my kids definately they got to adhere to them ,there would be no any short cuts to that.But ! ,I always let my daughter understand why i set the rule or as to why she has to do exactly what i say without picking urgments .Its my duty as a parent to make her understand why she has to do as per our rules.   Although as we expect  her to behave and do as we want ,we always let her raise up her opinion and from there we pick up and gets to a dialogue till we come up with one mind.We dont do that just because we dont want her to decline whatever we expect of her ,but we felt that we should always involve her as a way of showing her that her opinion is much welcomed if it makes sense . People tend to ignore kids opinions or whatever they try to say which just make them feel unwanted .Am not saying that they should be involved in everything but i have learnt with myself that whenever i let my daughter raise her opinion i make her feel that we care about her thoughts .This way it has worked for us since she nolonger decline what we expect of her .                   .                                                                                                                                        Every once a week we get  into a small family meeting which she enjoys .If she is needed to change any sort of behaviour this is when i bring up the issue and she is always willing to change .Infact with this trick the numer of time out has reduced .She has learnt in this way how to apologise without us forcing her to do it .Earlier long it was a huge struggle for her to Apologise her bad behaviours .So far so good am quiet comfortable with our ten minutes family meeting.Yes! Ten we dont take long .   Also i came to realise that in the evening when kids sleep about twelve hours ,they wake up happy with no Morning tantrums.Oooh Yeah!.The most Morning tantrums are caused sometimes with lack of a good sleep although not always but can be a major one especially if the kid went to bed in bad moods .You like it or not there will be a high Chance of a morning tantrums and for me to avoid this ,we agreed with my husband that the kids by eight o’oclock they should be at their bed .This has worked wonders for me since my daughter dont even have problems to wake up during morning to go at the kindergarden.You just call her once and she is awake.Let the child go to bed early and in good moods and the next day you’l see how peaceful it will be prepairing them to school .it just make your work easier .                                                                                                                                                       The other thing parenting has taught me to watch my language.Taking the overwhelming pressure off their shoulders and just tell them we are going here and we’re doing that,while looking cheerly and confident along the way the chances are they will be happy as little calms.  Although i said about family meetings and letting my daughter raise her opinions am always careful with this because on the other hand i dont want to give her too much choice.Too much choices i came to learn that will make her feel overwhelmed and she will start to show that rising discomfort through the behaviour.No they cant sit with you and start discussing the problem in a rational way.You just need to know how to handle your kid and limit too much choices.

BE YOUR SISTER’S KEEPER

A while along I have been thinking
about us women. How supportive we can be to each other and on the other hand, how humiliating we can be to  one another.

   Women are the worst enemies to themselves. It’s quiet sad that most women cannot keep their mouth shut. It’s devastating to know that a person you regard as a closest friend can talk ill and gossip around about her fellow friend.

What happened to protecting our fellow friend’s privacy? 

  Most women I have come across have  got  issues with their fellow friends and that makes me wonder,  Are there no good Women left in this world of today?

  Whenever a friend needs help or she is in trouble, learn to help out and keep it to yourself. Be supportive and stop roaming around preaching how helpful you have been to your fellow sister. Today she might need you and so you don’t know about the future, you might need her as well some days to come.

  Women should Empower each other not humiliating one another.

   It’s  wrong and hurting seeing women  fighting each other through gossips, verbal abuse and spreading rumours. For christ sake  be your sister’s keeper.

Humiliating each other just drag people behind and hinder great opportunities. Once you help a sister out you are building a better tomorrow.

Let women start embracing each other and knowing their worth. I believe that if most of us knew how much  worth it is to be a Woman in the society. The world would be a better place.

Do not rejoice when your fellow friend is going through hardships be supportive and help in any way you can. Be your sister’s keeper and keep off with gossips and spreading rumours.

   Embrace and support each other for a better tomorrow.

 

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Day 3:-Make sure your site is mobile- friendly and familiarize yourself with the features of responsive design.

I would say am quiet impressed with the feature of my site when I use the tablet and my phone.Although I would like to hear from anyone who’s using a desktop, ipad etc.

Your ideas and comments will be highly appreciated. Thanks

Audit your Brand

Day 2.Audit your brand. Look at all the way you communicate information about your blog to make sure  they’re consistent and focused.

I would say am quiet comfortable with my current brand although as time pass by I might do abit of auditing. But so far so good with my brand.

Although anyone with an idea about  auditing my brand, you are most welcome to leave a comment on the kind of changes that you ought to think should come in handy with my brand

Branding & Growth

Blogging 201 :-Day one

Setting 3 goals:-Consider what you want to accomplish with your blog. Write down 3 concrete goals.

I would say am excited to undertake the Blogging 201 and hoping to achieve more. Hereby are my 3 goals hopefully I want to achieve.

1).To Establish atleast a weekly blogging

2) To meet and interact with other great writer’s

3) Gain more followers and create an editorial calendar by the end of next month.

NEW WORLD

I was just eighteen of age as I moved from kenya to Cyprus. As much as I can remember I was excited. Goodness!!.It was quiet a good feeling to be on a plane for the first time. With all the stories I heard from my late grandfather about the plane that he narrated I just couldn’t wait.

It was a moment of joy and couldn’t express better that kind of excitement . I couldn’t imagine being abroad and visiting my beloved country from time to time, just like I saw with the other people whom lived in Abroad as they came for their vacation back in Africa . They all looked happy, filthy rich and open minded. I was looking forward to that.

Atleast from my village anyone who came for a short vacation, which was about three weeks or so looked as though they had been swimming in the river of the cash flow. Little did i know that most of them worked day and night to achieve the kind of lifestyle they had acquired , neither did I knew most of them had grunt work.

My friends regarded me as a lucky girl. Come on!. Exactly after six months I had just cleared my high school level and was leaving to Abroad? To them it was a blessing and some kind of a miracle. Everyone wished they were me at that particular time.

What was really in a teenage girl ‘s mind? Fresh out of high school and there she was about to start her life in Abroad. A place she just heard of stories and great ones for that matter. She thought she had hit a jackpot.Yes! Millions of money and owning premises within a year or two. That was the kind of mentality most of people had those days. Everyone thought once you landed overseas, money problems was not to be an issue.

As I landed in Cyprus I was excited to reconnect with my relatives, but the most exciting thing was that I was finally Abroad. I felt as if though I was born again all at once. Little did I know the challenges that were ahead of me, how to cope, adapt and how to deal with racism.

Racism was at it’s level best in Cyprus. Calling of names and most of the cypriots thought probably you just came from the forest!! There were few of them would ask whether Africans lived in the bush. Bush! Really? I always thought to myself, why would one not bother and Google all the information they needed about Africa?. Was I really in a possibility to answer the most dumb questions? Hell No!. I would let someone else answer that.

Not all Cypriots were dumb nor Racist. But probably they acted! Who knows? What I came to learn at a very quick moment , they could Act in your presence but the moment you excused yourself, They would name call you as “Mavri ” As if though you dint have a name.

Mavri means black. I would rather be addressed as An African but don’t dare address me with my skin colour. That’s lack of Mannerism. Period!

There were moments I just had enough, Infact I never thought an year would end when I was still around. But by the encouragement I got from very few friends made me carry on day by day.

The challenges were real and there was no one by my side to help me out, all I could do was to handle them. There was no way out! I had to mature very fast to handle my Shit.

Met different people and some of them were great friends. By the time I was clicking my twentieth year, I had adapted and knew well how to handle racism, challenges in life that mostly affects the girlchild. The thought of going back to Africa kind of faded abit, although homesick was killing me from time to time.

I came to realize that someone being Abroad was not a bed of roses unlike way back I thought when I was in Africa and not only with me, whom had this kind of thoughts, So many people believed that as soon as you landed overseas then your life changes dramatically and money starts flowing like a river.

Friends always sent emails day in day out, Yeah, they wanted a connection. What was I to reply? I just remained calm and all I could say to them was once I get a chance I would get back to them. But how could I have helped? I was not so well up in the island. I struggled thick and thin and giving myself hopes that all the struggle’s would come to an end. But did they seem to end anytime sooner? Hell No!.

Although I never loosed hope I tried all I could, worked extra hard to maintain the cash flow I intended to make.

Getting a genuine job was a struggle and if one was lucky, on the other hand either the manager or the boss himself would start sexual harassment, If you don’t give in. Guess what? You were fired!! Just like that.

The times I was fired are uncountable, others I just had to quit, I couldn’t take the nonsense of Sex for a job offer.

I will never come to understand why the Greek Cypriots behave in such a manner, But the fact of the matter is that I love Cyprus as an island itself.

I am glad that i learnt the Greek language, the cypriots culture, food and so forth. I still love Cyprus.

The End.